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Emotional Intelligence · module 02

Separate feeling, observable fact, interpretation, and missing context

The recovered manual includes thought-record and perspective-taking structures. DEPTH-03 turns them into a simpler truth discipline: describe what happened, name what you feel, identify the interpretation you added, and ask what context could change it.

Observable fact

Write what could be directly seen, heard, read, timed, recorded, or independently checked. 'They did not reply by 5 PM' is more observable than 'they do not respect me.'

Interpretation / story

Write the meaning you are adding: motive, intention, future prediction, judgment, or explanation. The purpose is not to shame yourself for interpreting; it is to make the interpretation visible enough to check.

Missing context

Ask what information could change the picture: workload, misunderstanding, role confusion, missing message, different expectation, another person's constraints, your own incomplete memory, or an unknown reason.

Perspective-taking is a hypothesis

The source includes exercises that imagine another person's experience. Those can generate useful possibilities, but imagining their perspective is not mind-reading. When important, ask the person rather than presenting your imagined explanation as fact.

Reflection

Questions to sit with

  1. What can I verify directly?
  2. What meaning am I adding?
  3. What question could reduce uncertainty?

One safe next action

Complete one Fact / Interpretation / Feeling Card before deciding what another person intended.