PAUSE + RESPONSE OPTIONS

Situation:

What am I feeling?
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Is immediate action actually required?
[ ] yes
[ ] no
[ ] uncertain

If not urgent, possible options:
1.
2.
3.

Possible consequences of each:
1.
2.
3.

Which option is most proportionate to the actual facts?
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What could I regret saying/doing if I act only from intensity?
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Chosen next movement:
[ ] question
[ ] pause
[ ] clarification
[ ] correction
[ ] request
[ ] boundary
[ ] apology / repair
[ ] leave / disengage safely
[ ] seek human/professional help
[ ] other

Review later:
Did the response reduce confusion, protect a boundary, or create new harm?
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